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etiquette q & a YOU’VE GOT QUESTIONS? WE’VE RESEARCHED THE ANSWERS Photo courtesy of Sharpe Photographers, sharpephotographers.com. Photo courtesy of Diana Miller Photography, dianamiller.com. Katie and Chris Beloberk June 17, 2006 Matt and Marisa Bauer May 5, 2007 W quette questions. CASH REGISTRY e know that planning a wedding is stressful enough – fretting over etiquette issues could just DRESS CODE the gift giver doesn’t have to wonder if you received their gift. And, keep in mind that although it’s traditionally been the bride’s responsibility to write the thank you cards, we believe in equality – the bride and groom should share in the thank you card responsibility as you both benefit from the receipt of the gifts. Email thank yous and computer generated thank yous are not acceptable – handwritten notes of thanks are mandated. UNRULY WEDDING GUEST put you over the edge. So, to help, we’ve answered some of your most pressing, and tricky, eti- Q. A. How do you politely require guests to adhere to a certain attire (i.e., black tie)? We think the best and most tasteful way to express your desire is to discreetly place your attire request at the bottom of your invitation, such as “Black Tie” if you are requiring formal dress, or “Black Tie Optional” if you are requesting formal dress. Or, if your reception site has a strict dress code, place this information at the bottom of your invitation. We suggest simply stating “No Jeans Allowed By Reception Site.” THANK YOU Q. A. What should you do if you would rather have money for a down payment on a house in lieu of gifts? Is it appropriate to set up a cash registry? We don’t feel it’s appropriate to list your desire for cash as gifts on your invitations, Q. A. Under what conditions is it appropriate to “un-invite” an unruly wedding guest in case of a falling out? For this question, we called in some professional help. Etiquette expert, Rebecca it’s best to spread this preference by word of mouth. We suggest telling your close friends and family of your desire so that when asked they can relay this information. And, while some may think that cash gift registries are not appropriate, we’re in favor of all gift registry options, traditional and cash. If you’re interested in a cash registry, Check out Rancho Cordova-based gogift.com. Q. ding? How long do you have to write and send out thank you cards after the wed- Black of Etiquette by Rebecca (etiquettebyreConventional wisdom says that thank you cards should be written within two months becca.com) says, “While it is not polite to un-invite a guest and we really shouldn’t do this, some times as good hosts we must. It is appropriate to un-invite a guest who has proven to be someone who could be abusive in any way – loud, verbally abusive, or physically abusive – because this per- A. of receiving the gift, however, in this age of instant gratification, we feel a more timely response is in order – we suggest writing thank you cards one to two weeks upon receipt of the gift. This way 96 Sierrastyle Weddings Premiere 2007 Photo courtesy of Photography by Tiffany, tiffanygraphics.com.

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