REAL LIFE ▲ JULIETTE WITH HUSBAND GAUTIER the Second World War. It really works. Try it next time you feel hard done by. There's nothing more grounding than realising that, actually, you're pretty lucky after all. FRENVY: don't let it eat away at you Psychologists have identified two distinct kinds of envy: Malicious is bitter and biting, driven by a need to make things equal, even if that means tearing another person down. Benign has an aspirational aspect - you think, 'If she can do it, maybe I can, too.' Though the feeling is still unpleasant, it's tinged with admiration rather than resentment. ARE YOU ENVIOUS? Try our test to find out: Do you congratulate those who succeed? Do you feel good, bad or neutral about such people? Do you find yourself obsessing about another person's success? Do you feel good when the other person fails? ...and how to get over it Don't focus on others - aim to improve yourself. Don't do others down. Try to delight in other people's good fortune. Beware of being ungenerous towards yourself. www.athomemagazine.co.uk AUGUST 2016 | 083